Getting Relationships Right

How to Build Resilience and Thrive in Life, Love, and Work

This one-stop guide to building relational literacy, the understanding of and ability to practice healthy ways of relating, provides the principles and tools for improving all kinds of relationships: with a romantic partner, friends, colleagues, animals, the environment, and even with oneself.

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In Getting Relationships Right, Melanie Joy reveals the common psychological dynamics that underlie all kinds of relationships. Understanding these dynamics can help make relationships healthier and more resilient.

Relationships are like bodies: they get sick when their immune system is weaker than the germs that stress them. Drawing on the most relevant research as well as on her own extensive experience as a psychologist, Joy explains how people can strengthen their relational immune system to resist not only interpersonal stressors but also the largely invisible yet potentially devastating societal stressors like racism and sexism. With this understanding, it becomes easier to cultivate relationships that consistently reflect core moral values and honor the dignity of everyone involved. Resilient relationships are not only a source of joy and fulfillment for those who are in them, they also support the thriving of the organizations and communities of which everyone is a part.

What People Are Saying

Recommended reading for both individuals and therapists!

Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of <i>Getting the Love You Want</i>

Joy offers a wise, practical, and well-researched template for creating healthy relationships of any kind. While reading it I kept thinking, ‘This is like an encyclopedia of relationship wisdom.’ I recommend this book to all those wishing to expand their social- emotional intelligence!

Susan Campbell, PhD, author of <i>Getting Real</i>, <i>Truth in Dating</i>, and <i>Five-Minute Relationship Repair</i>

Melanie Joy … nails it about what it takes to make relationships great. The book is well written with huge practical value. Getting Relationships Right is a must read!

Linda Bloom, co-author of <i>101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last</i>

Read this book if you want to have healthy, mature relationships. Dr. Joy provides the tools, insight and research to get the job done.

Dr. Jenn Mann, author of <i>The Relationship Fix: Dr. Jenn's 6-Step Guide to Improving Communication, Connection, and Intimacy</i> and Host of VH1’s <i>Couples Therapy with Dr. Jenn</i>

In this brilliant treasure of a book, Melanie Joy expertly and elegantly explains everything you’ll ever need to know about how to successfully navigate any kind of relationship.

Kathy Freston, <i>NY Times</i> bestselling author of <i>Quantum Wellness</i>, <i>The Lean</i>, and <i>The One</i>

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